When Does Life Get Fair?

When does life get fair?  That question is asked over and over, especially in times of difficulty. 

It doesn't.

It is one struggle after the other.  In different forms throughout life. There are joys and pains. I feel that somehow to experience the full highs of the joys, you must also embrace the lows of the pains... do the hard work to strengthen yourself and strive to be better. To learn from every struggle that presents itself. They keep coming. They seem to compound with age and time. But each time you overcome and survive, you are much wiser and much stronger.

In the end, you just do your best with what you have at any given moment. Use the knowledge you have and chalk up the mistakes you make as learning lessons.

There is really no escaping life - not if you choose to stay in it, and have a continual zest for living it. It is the price that comes from deciding to LIVE - and facing head on whatever comes your way.

I know. I am 43 years old and have faced things I'd never dreamed of. Things I thought would never touch my life. Things I thought I would never ever be capable of handling... but they come and we handle them. We learn, and we move forward.

The biggest battle of your life is the one you fight today. You're in hell right now... I know that... and either we get it together... or we're going to crumble little by little as it wears us down...

We can stay here... and get the shit kicked out of us... or... we can fight our way out. We can climb out... and into the light... little by little.

You know... as you go through life things get taken away from you... that's part of life. And it is cruel... and it is unfair... but that's not what living is about. It's about what we have left to give. It's those little things we do today that make our tomorrow.

You find out life is about those little things... that it's those little things that make all the difference. Those little things are all around us... and they're in every minute and every second of every day... and most of the time we don't even bother to see them.

Look for those little things... fight for those little things... and protect those little things... because when we add up all those little things that's going to make the difference that we need to get out of that dark place.

Now I can't do it for you... I can't make you do it. You wouldn't want that anyway... believe me... there's something better. Maybe you can't find the courage... because you're too lost... or maybe you can't find the strength... because you can't see it... but believe me... it's there... besides... you’ve got to be good and lost to find that which can't be found.

You have to stand up... and take a good look at your heart... and I think you're going to see a person willing to kick down the gates of hell to get those little things. Either we stand up now... and fight for those little things... or we're not going to make it. That's life... that's what it's all about.

I know you're hurting... and I know you're down... but you have to dig down into that core part of who you are and get up and move... even if it's just a little. Little by little and day by day.. you will get there.

So come on... take my hand if you have to... but stand up even if just for a moment... and be proud of who you are. The air is crisp and clean up here... and the view's much nicer. Don't be afraid to get up... you'll be okay... I promise. Stand up and take a minute to enjoy the little things. It makes all the difference.

I'm sorry that you're hurting... but you can't allow yourself to become a victim of what others have done. Don't be afraid... fear only makes the shadows grow longer. Embrace yourself and ride the unstoppable momentum of your spirit. When hope is lost create it within the core of who you are. Against all odds and when all has failed you still have yourself. Maybe you can't see it right now... but you’re there. Fight for you... I can promise you, you’re worth it.

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