Addictive Relationships

We all know that there are healthy relationships and unhealthy relationships.  In future articles I will be covering the characteristics of healthy relationships as well as characteristics of specific unhealthy relationships.  In this article I will be focusing on one of the most common of unhealthy relationships – Addictive Relationships. 

If you are still in the fantasy stage and only enjoying the highs, think about this. Addictive relationships have you doing things you would not 'normally' do.

*Like sitting and waiting for a long time for a phone call and then getting moody when it doesn't happen.

*Like keeping your schedule open for "what if" someone is available; putting your life 'on hold' for someone else.

*Like doing things you wouldn't do or that are against your moral code except that it's for/about "that" person

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*Like being cranky and mean to other people in your life because you are not happy with the way the addictive relationship is going.

*Like obsessing in your mind and compulsive behavior to be with the person at the expense of your family, job, or other responsibilities.

*Like forgetting about 'everything' else in your life when in the presence of the person. This is where reality meets fantasy. You are so myopic (near sighted) you don't see the rest of the world around you. You create a reality to escape to and push away the rest of the world - reality.

*You feel love, and especially passion, but you are not loving to the rest of the world. Your love is coveted for the one person.

*The difference between an addictive relationship and a healthy relationship is how it affects your OTHER relationships; especially the one with yourself!

Rather than thinking of it as real vs addictive think of it as healthy vs addictive. What is a healthy relationship? Fantasy is just part of addictive relationships. A healthy relationship doesn't need fantasy... it's just... healthy!

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